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Hey.
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Hi
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How are you?
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Most excellent, thank you. And yourself?
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I'm okay I guess.
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What's going on?
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Basically I'm an awful person lol
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I am lying to two different women. Cheating on them both with the other.
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Can't seem to tear myself away from it despite consciously knowing what my mental issues are with all this and how it began..
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Seems no matter how hard I try to make a choice, I go back on it and I'm right back where I started.
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I've tried dumping both women at one time or another and can't seem to do it.
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And what exactly is it that's keeping you attached to them?
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Well I love them both. It's weird how you can love more than one person.
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One of these women I've been with for 2 years.. she's picked me up from some tough times, been there for me. Best friend and lover. We live together.
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Only thing is she's a doctor and doesn't have a lot of time on her hands with 13 hour shifts.
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The other girl I've known little under a year. We slept together a couple of times, she's exciting.. makes me laugh. Cute. I couldn't praise her enough..
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We work together so I see her a lot.
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The problem with breaking up with the co-worker besides I'm emotionally crushed is that she makes work life difficult when we aren't together.
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What do you mean by "difficult"?
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I mean she gets moody, makes the atmosphere shit. Turns other co-workers against me.
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I'm guessing there is an age difference b/w you and her? Younger woman??
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Yeah, but she's older.
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I see..
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so what do you think will happen if either one or both of them find out about your infidelity?
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Well it's happened once.
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The girlfriend of 2 years found out about the co-worker..
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She was looking through texts on my phone.
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I swore to her me and the co-worker hadn't slept together and at that point I wasn't lying.
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She forgave me on the condition I got rid of her completely from my social life.
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I deleted the co-worker off facebook.. and dumped her ect..
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Then the co-worker made shit difficult. I still liked her anyways so I secretly jumped back into it.
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How long ago was that?
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Good few month ago.
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so now, you're between a rock and a hard place, and it seems that the co-worker will keep blackmailing you
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The co-worker doesn't even know the girlfriend exists.
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But she will continue to make life in work hard.
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What do you think might happen if you tell #2 about t#1
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All hell would break loose.
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or let me ask you this...are you willing to lose your Doctor GF?
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I thought so..
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I tried tonight infact.. but I just couldn't leave.
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I figured if I can't leave 2 then 1 must be the problem..
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Turns out I can't leave either.
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So if you HAD to choose (with a gun to your head hypothetically speaking) who would you stay with?
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I'd just let them shoot me lol
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I guess you don't really need me to tell you this...you are in a vehicle headed for a cliff...
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..and you could potentially lose both of them
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..not to mention the drama and embarrassment at work?
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Yeah I know, it's ridiculous.
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I'm willing to venture a guess here that you actually love #1 and #2 is just an infatuation
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And you admitted that she has been with you through thick n thin...
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Yeah guess you're right.
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So in your mind, who deserves your loyalty?
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1 deserves my loyalty.
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I know it's a very difficult choice my man, but I think your heart knows the answer already
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Not saying that it's going to be easy, but you'll just have to wean yourself away from #2 overtime
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How do I break up with 2 without problems?
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Become very needy
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How often do you see her?
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Most the time in work
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What about outside work?
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Hmm at the moment about once maybe twice a week
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Ask her to do you favours. see how she responds
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I try to keep in minimal so it's not suspicious.
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That way, you will also find out how loyal she is to you
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She's already offered lol she offers to do my shifts ect
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I mean outside work
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Ahh right, like what?
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Any kind of stuff that you don't like doing, buy your stuff for you etc...basically just become dependent on her
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I know this may sound strange to you but woman lose attraction for a guy who is needy
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This is the only way i can suggest for you to get out of this
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Right okay noted..
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Can i ask how old this lady is?
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But if she accepts the neediness and still clings on?
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she's 24
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And the doc?
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23
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ok, so not much age diff
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Chances are high that #2 will get feed up with constant attention
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Okay shall take my chances with that approach then
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Thanks for the advice
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I wish you luck man
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